Well my quest to find "Mr. Right" became the quest of weeding out all the rhetoric. People may say that this its creepy to meet someone online, but..UMMMM.....its really no different, than meeting people at the bar, I mean at least I get to see a profile, on the person before meeting them. Right? well Lets go on and see what happens after I was able to create my profile.
DAY 1
Creating the profile was a little less than enjoyable. First of all I hate sounding so cliche.."I'm Jane Doe...and I like long walks in the park, and wine by the fire place"BOO!! but at the same time I didn't really want to come off as being too deeply enthralled in who I am..So i kept it simple and just gave the highlights. Posted and few really great, but not too pretentious photos..and WHAM! there I was...A brand new girl on the block.
3 hours later....
I had over 30 hits! wow ..cool..
then 30 jumped to 130! like for real! haha!
By days end I found myself sifting through every picture every profile, till I narrowed it down to 15. From there it was all about geographic. I had only expanded my search to about a 300 mile radius. Living on the Southeast coast, That opened me up to Virginia, NC, GA, SC, and upstate Florida. Narrowing it down to my top 15, wasn't as difficult as I thought it would be. The first process of elimination, was getting rid of the ones, I was right off unattractive to. Then from there, the reading of the profile. If they said too much or not enough..were they coming off as sexually focused or too involved with their own looks...you know the extreme body builders, and health nuts, all in which i had no interest...Since I am a Foodie!
Finally, location. had to factor in the actual meeting and would it require a drive or a plane ticket.
So there I had it..My top 10! I was so excited! most of them had already reached out over email and wanted to immediately chat! Great!!!!
or so I thought...
guy 1-5 all turned out to be right away creepy! lol!
Starting off with proposals. One wanted nude photos! Haha! nothing to be offended about..It goes with the territory. and the "Delete" option is so much fun!
The next 5, proved to be worthy of further chatting, and seemed to be some really great potentials! Yay me! I was well on my way to the Golden ticket of a man....
HAHAH!
yea..ok. well at least I was scratching the surface.
Day 2
By day 2, I had exchanged with one guy who seemed pretty interesting. He lived in Tennessee, however, BUT was willing to travel etc. So after chatting with him for most of the evening on Day 1, we both decided to connect over the phone.
He called and had a decent enough voice, sounded mature and 'grown man-ish'..that's a start.
We talked for over an hour, found out he was a divorcee, with adult children, and was really looking to settle down with a nice woman. So on and so forth., the conversation seemed to be going ok. Till he said something that made me sense a red flag approaching. He had an issue with my job. My job at the time was in a branch of Law enforcement, ( i will say) and he chauvinistically said "well that's no job for a woman". Next he seemed to be very intent with letting me know how much money he made and how " well" he like to take care of his woman. OK..now to the naked listener this sounds like a man who just wants to simply take care of his woman and who see his woman as the weaker vessel, so she shouldn't be in that "type' of work. So sweet!
Nope this was the ingredients for a "controller type" and i was already out of there!
Anyway, after we argued by the end of Day3...because he felt so strongly about my job, and how i just needed to quit it..because it was "stupid"...I just went one and made use of the delete button.
So that was my start..after him, I talked to the remaining 4 through out the course of the week. One had issues with his children's mom, < which meant drama, one had issues with a transsexual, that he had accidentally gone out with, and kept asking me over and over if I was indeed a woman<drama,..then the one who I actually got in an argument with on the first convo, about his issue with love, and told me that he felt that polygamy should be the new wave of love. "Men weren't made to be with one woman...."
yea...ok....Ill just say, none of them truly fit what I was looking for to even attempt a first actual date.
Back to the drawing board!
And it was ok...I only had another 100 more hits on my profile along with about 20 inboxed messages! haha!
However this time would prove to worth my while...and even got a date! sort of.
Check out my next blog for the continuation of how my first date went..
.I few weeks later.
2 words..
Hot and Steamy!
Creating the profile was a little less than enjoyable. First of all I hate sounding so cliche.."I'm Jane Doe...and I like long walks in the park, and wine by the fire place"BOO!! but at the same time I didn't really want to come off as being too deeply enthralled in who I am..So i kept it simple and just gave the highlights. Posted and few really great, but not too pretentious photos..and WHAM! there I was...A brand new girl on the block.
3 hours later....
I had over 30 hits! wow ..cool..
then 30 jumped to 130! like for real! haha!
By days end I found myself sifting through every picture every profile, till I narrowed it down to 15. From there it was all about geographic. I had only expanded my search to about a 300 mile radius. Living on the Southeast coast, That opened me up to Virginia, NC, GA, SC, and upstate Florida. Narrowing it down to my top 15, wasn't as difficult as I thought it would be. The first process of elimination, was getting rid of the ones, I was right off unattractive to. Then from there, the reading of the profile. If they said too much or not enough..were they coming off as sexually focused or too involved with their own looks...you know the extreme body builders, and health nuts, all in which i had no interest...Since I am a Foodie!
Finally, location. had to factor in the actual meeting and would it require a drive or a plane ticket.
So there I had it..My top 10! I was so excited! most of them had already reached out over email and wanted to immediately chat! Great!!!!
or so I thought...
guy 1-5 all turned out to be right away creepy! lol!
Starting off with proposals. One wanted nude photos! Haha! nothing to be offended about..It goes with the territory. and the "Delete" option is so much fun!
The next 5, proved to be worthy of further chatting, and seemed to be some really great potentials! Yay me! I was well on my way to the Golden ticket of a man....
HAHAH!
yea..ok. well at least I was scratching the surface.
Day 2
By day 2, I had exchanged with one guy who seemed pretty interesting. He lived in Tennessee, however, BUT was willing to travel etc. So after chatting with him for most of the evening on Day 1, we both decided to connect over the phone.
He called and had a decent enough voice, sounded mature and 'grown man-ish'..that's a start.
We talked for over an hour, found out he was a divorcee, with adult children, and was really looking to settle down with a nice woman. So on and so forth., the conversation seemed to be going ok. Till he said something that made me sense a red flag approaching. He had an issue with my job. My job at the time was in a branch of Law enforcement, ( i will say) and he chauvinistically said "well that's no job for a woman". Next he seemed to be very intent with letting me know how much money he made and how " well" he like to take care of his woman. OK..now to the naked listener this sounds like a man who just wants to simply take care of his woman and who see his woman as the weaker vessel, so she shouldn't be in that "type' of work. So sweet!
Nope this was the ingredients for a "controller type" and i was already out of there!
Anyway, after we argued by the end of Day3...because he felt so strongly about my job, and how i just needed to quit it..because it was "stupid"...I just went one and made use of the delete button.
So that was my start..after him, I talked to the remaining 4 through out the course of the week. One had issues with his children's mom, < which meant drama, one had issues with a transsexual, that he had accidentally gone out with, and kept asking me over and over if I was indeed a woman<drama,..then the one who I actually got in an argument with on the first convo, about his issue with love, and told me that he felt that polygamy should be the new wave of love. "Men weren't made to be with one woman...."
yea...ok....Ill just say, none of them truly fit what I was looking for to even attempt a first actual date.
Back to the drawing board!
And it was ok...I only had another 100 more hits on my profile along with about 20 inboxed messages! haha!
However this time would prove to worth my while...and even got a date! sort of.
Check out my next blog for the continuation of how my first date went..
.I few weeks later.
2 words..
Hot and Steamy!
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